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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 12:41

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I have only just joined the forum and have noticed a trend. The constant advice from everyone is to 'keep positive' and think of the 'good times'. I think this is admirable and obviously good advice. My wife, Sue, is lovely, my friends supportive, and I try to keep busy with some swimming and other exercises. But I keep coming up against the limitations of PD. For instance I used to be a good semi pro musician but, at a rehearsal on Sunday I had to hide my loss of ability from my music buddies. They know I didn't play well but were great enough not to say anything. My work is the same. I work as a Biomedical Scientist (blood test doer!)and find the lack of manual dexterity a real pain. All in all it's hard to keep positive when you come up against it all the time in the real world.
And to top it off the government are querying my benefits claim as none of the questions seem to appertain to my problems.
Whingefest over ! Sorry for that but I find it hard to be happy at the moment
Chris

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 12:48

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After I posted this I realised what a whingbag I've become. Please just ignore me
. I know there are people far worse off than me

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 13:02

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Hallo Spam,
You came to the right place for a good whinge. When things are getting you down just being able to have someone you can spill it all out to can help.
Its difficult when you don't want to moan to your nearest and dearest.

Coming to terms with the things you can no longer do is very hard. My Other Half
is still struggling after twelve years. You just come here and have a whinge if you need to. All the best.

annesel

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 15:26

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I have been saying cheer up quite a lot recently. Ignore me... am actually a reknowned pessimist and I get as down as the rest. I'm saying it as much to myself as anyone else...but hey...there really are some good days and I could be much worse.

Ho hum

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 16:07

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George Lorimer said, " You've got to get up every morning with determination if you're going to go to bed with satisfaction"

Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It's up to you to choose which you will be.It's hard at times but then we just have to plod on.
It's all down to us! biggrin

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 20:33

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Hi spam95,I look at it like this.You have to think positive or you might as well give up .When I wake up each morning,It does not matter how supportive my family are ,Its me that's got PD and there's only me that can deal with it.It Is frightening,and I think everyone has to find their own way of coping,don't give up your music or anything else you like doing.Just live your life what's best for you Angel4u smile

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 20:42

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Thanks all, I'll suvive and get over it. Can't even drink to excess!!!!!! cos of the drugs!!!!!!!!sadsad

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 20:49

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Sorry never could do what I was told rolleyes

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Posted - 26 Apr 2010 21:02

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Hi Spam
Don't apologise. We should all have a whingefest whenever we feel like it! Positivist, realist, optimist, pessimist - take turns. I try to stay positive, but think I'm allowed a great big wallow in a pit of despond at this awful condition and having to live with it! Then I just keep on keeping on.
djemm

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Posted - 27 Apr 2010 13:30

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Hello Spam
This is the best place to express our frustration cos someone does respond. Even if it's words of advice that don't help at the time, the fact that they bothered makes you feel a bit better. Also there's usually someone feeling positive when someone else is miserable. (Thank goodness - we couldn't cope if we were all in the depths of gloom at the same time wink)
I was down on Friday, but a cheery word from Annied helped and the gloom eventually wore off over the weekend. Today I can see that there are spring flowers out there and can cope with work. But no idea how I'll be feeling tomorrow after neuro visit. Bit of a roller-coaster isn't it.
Hope you are having a better day.