Welcome dsa,

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Thank you so much.

Hi DSA,

I'm sorry your social services have responded in such a dozy, not to say lazy, way. You might not want to bother with s/s just now but do phone the information/helpline top left It makes me fume when I hear of reactions like you have had from social services. For future reference, when your input into the situation is clearer, I quote from my local County Council's Support for Carers leaflet:-............

"Anyone over the age of 16 has a right to an assessment if you (sic) care for someone for a substantial amount of time on a regular basis under the Carers Recognition & Services Act 1995 and the Carers & Disabled Children Act 2000. You may be living with or away from the person you care, caring full time or combining care with paid work - you will still have a right to a carers assessment. Your right to an assessment is not affected, even if the person you care for is not eligible for services or does not want help from Social Services."

Thank you so much. I think I am going to have a word with Mum and then contact ss again.

Hi dsa,

I am new to this website too and have already felt the friendship here. My Dad is88 and has had parkinsons for 9 years. My mum had emphasema and until she died at 84 was his main carer. Now dad lives in a residential home near me. I would just like you to know that my Dad has managed well with his PD until very recently and many other elderley people without PD were more disabled than him so you may find that PD does not affect your mum too badly straight away. You are a very caring person but take care of yourself and your son as well. Your parents would not want your whole life to revolve round caring for them. Good Luck. x

Buzz

Thank you so much Buzz - It is amazing really....you tend to think you are the only one that these things are happening to and then you hear of other similar stories - it does stop you feeling so alone. Thank you again.

dsa and to all other community members,readin all your posts,on other threads as well,it brings tears to me eys,everyone is movin togeather ,becomin friends and makin the forum a nice place to visit and have the surport we need.dsa and buzz and all other carers who look after there loved ones,wot a great job you all doin,i found with new members that join,a bit confussed with things,wot shall i do,upset,need surport etc.and then a week later there here agin ,talkin ,lettin out there feelins to us,and thats wot it all about,thats how we help one another out.im so happy ive got you all as my friends,thankyou.