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Caring for my wife - Michael Muskett's story

Michael Muskett, 82, cares for his wife Doreen, 79, who was diagnosed with Parkinson's in 1972.

They live together in Milton Keynes.

Parkinson's impact on work

The change from husband and wife to carer and person with Parkinson's is very difficult.

"Our lives have never been the same since Doreen's Parkinson's started to deteriorate.

"We're both retired professional musicians. During our careers we've made great progress in bringing music to people both at home and abroad.

"We used to do 6 to 8 South Bank concerts a year including festivals and music clubs.

"However, in 1997 our careers were forced to come to an end. Due to Doreen's worsening Parkinson's, she was no longer able to play her instruments at a professional level. I was unable to continue with music as I became her sole carer."

Stress and frustration

"Now I am a full time carer from 8am to 10pm. With no career and no professional income, my pension savings have been cut off.

"The stress and frustration are at times almost unbearable. I have to run the household on my own and have little time to give to music or time to do anything outside of the house.

"Our lives have changed from an active lifestyle full of travel, music and a glistening career, to a restricted homebound existence.

"It's horrible and life-shattering to watch the person you love deteriorate in such a way.

Poor experience of respite care

"Respite care is inadequate. I've had a carer's assessment and I receive Carer's Allowance, as well as claiming a pension and respite care. But I don't receive any home care to help me or my wife.

"The change in relationship between husband and wife to carer and person with Parkinson's is very difficult."

Improving support for carers

We know how important support for carers is. Carers of people with Parkinson's, like Michael, can face challenges getting the support and information they need.